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[quote=Anonymous]NP.

Same thing happened to us -- also 15 years together -- and I felt bad and was about to encourage DH to reach out to his parents and that day DH got this awful passive-aggressive email about how they can "only" hear from him and "he and only he" needs to reach out to them and made this huge deal about making sure that I didn't call or email them for the holidays (we are Jewish, so this would be Hanukkah). And he was like "F" them, and for the first time in 15 years, I said "A-f-ing men."  I am finally done feeling bad that my in-laws manipulated DH for so long and he is finally free and happy.

Some parents are truly nightmares and all the "sailing, skiing, and traveling" in the world would not be worth exposing children to that nightmare situation of narcissism.  Plus, and this is not our motivation, but we have a lot more disposable income to spend on our kids than my retired in-laws and their fixed income.  Our kids go sailing, skiing, and traveling around the world without having to be criticized, picked out, annoyed, and belittled by my in-laws who think that the world owes them something.  I think my in-laws are surprised that we would rather spend our own money and enjoy our limited vacation time than have them pay for the hotels and expect us to "pay" them back in other ways.

The SIL/PP who posted sounds to be part of the drama and favoritism and does not understand what it is like to be on the other end of the stick.  My guess is that the SIL is part of the problem, which is what we experienced from DH's SIL.[/quote]

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