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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Perhaps I just can’t relate, but I am sure my SIL might say something similar about my parents... honestly in our case is her and her kids’ loss. They are missing out on amazing grandparents that could take her kids skiing, sailing and traveling the world (like they do with our kids). My parents are not perfect and I can see how SIL might think my mom is “manipulative” and “overbearing”... but honestly it’s their kids’ loss mainly (and my kids because they don’t get to see their cousins much).
Our issue is with SiL since my brother had a great relationship when he sees us solo.[/quote]

You sound like a nightmare. If you had these opinions about me I’d keep you and your mother away from my kids too.[/quote]

What opinion do you think I have exactly? I don’t think I mentioned anything about opinions... I guess your reading comprehension is not very good... I can tell you I am not a big fan of judgemental people like you [/quote]
But you’re judging OP when you know nothing of her husband’s circumstances with his parents. Pot, meet kettle.[/quote]

Nope, I was not judging her at all... I said that maybe I can’t relate because my parents are (in my opinion) great and DH ‘s parents are good too. I simply offered another suggestion for OP. Maybe she feels bad because her own kids are missing out. Again, maybe her in laws are just bad people with nothing to offer, but in my case it’s very different. Even DH’s parents that are older and can’t do much with grandkids can still teach them things we won’t be able to teach them ourselves. It’s more people that love them... again, maybe OP’s in laws are just horrible, but if they aren’t and simply aren’t perfect, then maybe she can try a little harder for her children’s sake... that’s all[/quote]
You’re missing the key point: parents have to facilitate these relationships, and that can be emotionally exhausting if there is emotional abuse going on. Often times, it’s not worth it to the parent, and not something they want their child exposed to. It’s wonderful you have a great relationship with parents, and that that relationship trickles down to your children. Unfortunately, yours isn’t the same experience everyone has. It’s fair to agree that no, you can’t relate.[/quote]

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