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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the old bitter skeptical and suspicious folks grumbling about how annoying and odd the request is.

What happened to your optimism?
What happened to your faith in the one you love?
Any of you even stop to think your spouse could be setting things up for a surprise romantic evening for you two?

Sheesh.[/quote]

Because the nature of the request is odd. [b] Telling the spouse that it's easier if they aren't home during the playdate signals that there is something wrong with the spouse.  [/b]

I've planned surprise things for DH.  I ask him to pick me up something from the store.   Plus, if ops spouse is hosting a playdate that means they are home and would have time to set.up a surprise without telling them they couldn't come home. [/quote]

Really?  Is it ok to hang out with friends outside of your home without your spouse?  Or does that also imply that there is something wrong?  [/quote]

Your comment doesn't make sense.  Going out with friends without your spouse is very different from telling your spouse not to come home after work because you're hosting a playdate [/quote]

It’s exactly the same, just a different location.  Spouse wants to hang out with friends without OP.  [/quote]

Well when I do that at home, I don't kick dh out. He's welcome to be in the same house, he just goes to a different room.  Do you not allow your spouse in the house at all if you have friends over? [/quote]

Being out of the house and being in a different room are more or less the same.  If I cant tell whether or not he is home, then it doesn’t matter where he is.

Honestly, I don’t really even have to ask.  We have a playgroup every Friday afternoon.  DH always manages to find something to do that is out of the house.  If it was going into the evening, he would probably find something else to do.  I can’t imagine he would come in demanding that I make him dinner or anything.  
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Not really.  DH goes up to his office and reads or does whatever.  He has never demanded dinner or asked anything of me.  He takes care.of himself.  But he likes the comfort of relaxing at home vs sitting at a bar.   [/quote]

I honestly don’t see why you feel that asking your husband to sit alone in his office and not speak to his children is different than asking him to be out of the house.  
Those things seem like almost exactly the same request to me, although, frankly, I think the office thing seems worse.

I really can’t imagine that the OP would be upset if she discovered that instead of being out, her husband had been working quietly in his office.  She just asked that he not create more work for her.  For an hour.  Once.  [/quote]

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