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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At the preschool ages, it is hard to get the kids together when you have the working parent divide, absolutely.  As a SAHM, I deliberately booked playdates during the day (and to get me through the day, since it can be isolating as a SAHM!) so that evenings and weekends could be family time.  Now that the kids are school age, this is a non issue.  First off, many of the SAHMs will return to the workforce when their youngest hits full day school anyway, so more of those moms becomes WOHMs.  And like pp said, playdates move to the after school/weekend times anyway, and sports/extracurriculars become the main focus of socializing and play time.[/quote]

Agreed.  I think this is a temporary issue, op.   [/quote]
This is a temporary issue, but it does keep going passed preschool.  I became good friends for a while with a clique of SAHMs in my neighborhood (all of my kids are in elementary school, I have two in elementary and two in pre-school still).  I work from home twice a week so I would try to organize get-togethers with them on those days.  It started being hard though -- they were always getting coffee or lunch or going places in the middle of the day, and even though they understood that I couldn't come on days I was actually working, they still made comments sometimes like I was picking work over them (which duh yes of course I was).  I came to realize that I would never really be "in" with them or really best best friends with any of them, because I just couldn't commit to spending that much time with them during the work week, and my kids took the majority of time outside of weekend/evening.  Things like taking a day off to go to Tysons Galleria with them to look at the bargain racks just aren't possible.  Ditto with taking a day off to take our kids hiking in Shenandoah in the middle of the week.  My kids are in camp if I'm not working.  So I stopped trying, and now we're still friendly, but I'm not really in their clique anymore.  They don't really include me on group text chains anymore, and I don't really go out of my way to hang out with them anymore.  That's fine with me.  As the OP said, I have other friends (though not as many as I once did), and I have to focus on what's important in my life right now (which unfortunately is financial security for me and my family).  They legitimately have more time than I do.  That's fine.  I don't judge them, hopefully they don't judge me.  [/quote]

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