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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a really good friend from before we had kids. She ended up SAH and I WOH but with a flexible schedule, so we'll get together for a playdate 2-3x weekday afternoons. We talk about everything under the sun, not just kids. Often we'll let the kids (preschoolers) play and largely ignore them unless a sharing-related intervention is needed, so that we can chat.

I do see some SAHMs from DD's preschool class who are cliquey, because they see each other frequently and don't see me as much (despite the flexible schedule, I do actually have to work sometimes). I think part of it is that they are intimidated because they had fluff careers before kids and they feel they have nothing interesting to say, but that's a wrong assumption. I'm a mother too, so of course I'll be just as interested in a conversation about potty training as I am in discussing politics or some complex analysis. The only time I stay silent is if they start complaining about how their DHs don't help with the kids or house. I'll put on a sympathetic expression, but I'm not really sure how to respond.[/quote]

SAHMs are not intimidated by working moms. I used to be a working mom before I was a SAHM.

We do have conflicting schedules. I have both working mom friends and SAHM friends. Most of my friends are busy whether they are corporate lawyers, PTA presidents, launching a new business. Or they are busy juggling multiple kids like me. I still make time for my friends.

I don’t try to make friends through my friends. Sure, I am friendly with my kids’ friends’ parents. We carpool, we sit together at the pool or school events but I don’t necessarily consider them my friends. My kids have friends of both working and SAHMs. When they get older, it is drop off and it really doesn’t matter. I host kids who come home with me or ride the bus with my kids. My kids have been invited over to plenty of kids’ houses whose parents work. It does seem norm for at least one parent to have a flexible schedule or work from home sometimes.[/quote]

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