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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I wish evites made clearer to whom they are addressed.  My kids are little, so they do not have their own email addresses.  But, they are also very close in age and are both friends with many of the same kids.  Sometimes, I honestly cannot tell if the birthday kid is inviting one of my kids or both of them.

That said, I generally agree with OP that, if you have to ask, you should do so privately and in a way that makes it easy for the host to say no.[/quote]

Here's a freaking hint. If it's a birthday party for a 6-year-old, YOUR 6-year-old who is in her Kindergarten class who is invited. The 3yo sibling she's never met is not. Your 8mo is not. [/quote]

It's really hard when you have twins, especially boy-girl twins.  Are they both invited? What if they are in the same class?   It is impossible to tell with evites. [/quote]

Then use the contact information PROVIDED ON THE EVITE and PRIVATELY ask, if you must. [/quote]

You are so nasty. The point was that many of us don't want to be rude and appear to be inviting siblings to a party. Asking raises the possibility that the host will feel pressure to say "yes."  I am fine with a host inviting whoever he or she wants, but if the invite isn't specific, it tells me nothing and leaves me guessing. This is particularly true when the host hides the guest list. If I can see that everyone is invited or if it a mostly boys or girls party, I can figure it out.

I would never email the group. One thing I do is guess and RSVP with only one kids' name. Often, I will get a response from the host saying "I just wanted to let you know that XXX is invited too."

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You're making this way more difficult. But, since you have some aversion to asking, at least your approach works and doesn't burden the host with extra kids.[/quote]

Also, the OP complained that is is RUDE to ask. That was the entire point of this post. Not just that it was rude to do so publicly, but that it was RUDE to ASK.

Maybe that's why people don't want to ask.[/quote]

It is rude to ask. Use your common sense. Think it through. Gee whillikers, only one of my kids is in this kids class, whatever do I do.[/quote]

I was just pointing out that my "aversion to asking" as per the PP was avoiding being rude and that sending an invitation that is not directed to any particular child is also rude.[/quote]

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