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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Have a fling but don't marry. My sister did this and she is now a nursemaid to a man with advanced Parkinsons and she is beyond miserable.[/quote]

obviously a WONDERFUL human being.  !!!!   sounds like a selfish unfeeling pig
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Wow. Who said she didn't still love him? Just because it is difficult and her life is challenging (miserable, even) doesn't mean she isn't feeling or doesn't care for him. Obviously she loves him and is caring for him. If roles were reversed it is likely he would have divorced her.

She sounds unselfish to me. She's doing the difficult work of caregiving. Don't be so quick to judge.[/quote]

I was the op of the reply.  For the mean commenters he has/had multiple health problems including Crohns disease when they married.  A few years in when she was late 30s he got the Parkinson's dx.  He was mid-late 50s then.  Long and very sad decline over the past 10 years.  Parkinsons dementia is something nobody talks about.  Not only can he barely walk now he is not lucid much of the time.  It is not just physical.  He has three grown children none of who help in any way.  She begs for a respite weekend and gets nothing.  He pees and craps all over the house and resists using aids like walkers and diapers.  My sisters and I are also dealing with eldercare issues for both our parents at the same time.  I cannot tell you how much this sucks but at least we three siblings aren't fighting at the moment.  [/quote]

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