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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I feel bad for the sister. She’s understanding for the first time that her sister doesn’t actually like spending time with her. It’s just another obligation.

That has to suck. Obviously, the sister is hurt that pretty much the only family she has doesn’t really like her. It’s also crappy for OP, it must have been exhausting to go through the motions out of obligation for all those years.

Now the gig is up. Both sisters have to face the truth. [/quote]

You have spun this scenario out of whole cloth.  It's complete fiction. [/quote]

Read the OP again. She talks about playing mom to her sister (out of guilt.) She says she’s needy and she’s trying to pull back and recalibrate the relationship to be more of a peer one and less of a parental one. That’s a nice way of saying OP REALLY wants space from this relationship. She outlines all the ways she keeps in touch with her sister. It seems like she’s tallying all she does to make sure she can still be “a good person” when she wants nothing more than distance from her sister.

The only thing I’m reading between the lines is that the sister is starting to notice. [/quote]

This is the sum total of the OP's discussion about her earlier relationship with her sister:

"My little sister is 13yrs younger than me. Our mother passed away when she was 15 so I’ve always been kind of a mother figure to her. That has slowly changed somewhat as we both became moms (her oldest and my youngest are the same age) but she’s always been a bit needy."

No mention of guilt.  No mention of Op recalibrating her relationship - just that it is changing.  Yes, the sister has been "a bit needy."

And from that, you ascertain that Op is "trying to pull back" and " OP REALLY wants space from this relationship."

You have a very active imagination.

Again, the simplest answer - and one supported by the actual information we know - is that OP's sister has moved, and misses the daily constant they had, and wants to schedule a trip, but OP has preexisting obligations that don't allow for that until the summer.  And that's not good enough for the sister.

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