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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Irony: OP complaining about a divorced, special needs parent, while seeking emotional support on an anonymous board [/quote]

I agree that OP's complaint just does not sit right with me. I have a child with special needs (not autism), and a marriage that's unstable in part because my spouse has some of the traits of our son, and despite a two parent household, life can be difficult and chaotic because living with people who have difficulty functioning normally in society is HARD.

I note that OP has not detailed exactly what SIL has asked of them recently, apart from the previous lawyer fees, and has not described the mean things SIL has said.

It makes me think OP is exaggerating and cannot fathom how unrelentingly burdensome life is for her SIL. 250K/yr DOES NOT MAKE UP FOR AUTISM!
Want to switch places with her, OP?
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You have a lot on your plate I'm sure but that does not mean that your sibling(s) don't also have problems which may, at times, feel overwhelming to them.

If you want empathy you need to give it.  Make sure that you don't expect the world to revolve around you and your own set of circumstances.  Have you tried Autism support groups?  Parents who are going through the same challenges can probably relate better to what you're going through - a sibling who hasn't been there might find themselves walking on eggshells around you.  That doesn't mean that your siblings don't love and care about you because they most certainly do.  It just can't be ALL about you and your troubles ALL of the time.  They have things that they are dealing with, too.[/quote]

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