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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just remember. This was YOUR call. [/quote]

No. It wasn't. He knew the rules he broke them it was HIS call for the marriage to end. [/quote]

YOU took him back. [/quote]

[b]She took him back [/b]because he lied and said he changed and he didn't so... bye felicia![/quote]

Exactly my point. [/quote]

Stop blaming the victim.[/quote]

No one is blaming her for having been cheated on the first time.  She deserves to be blamed her for her absolute awful decision making to take him back in and for believing he had changed.  This one is entirely on her.  [/quote]

I think it's SO ODD the mental gymnastics some people will do to ensure they don't have to have sympathy for some else's shitty situation. Usually stay from an insecurity that "no one is handing me anything/ gives a shit about my life. So why should I". What a crap outlook[/quote]

It's also a form of mental protection -- " I will never be in that situation because I would never make such an awful choice."  People like this also believe that they will never be cheated on because they are smarter than the infidelity victim and would have seen the "signs" that revealed the cheater to have been a bad person or they would have "satisfied" the cheater sexually or interpersonally.

Blame is a form of self-soothing.  The other person did something wrong.  I would never do that wrong thing.  Ergo I will never be in that position.

It doesn't really work that way, but it's a powerful need for safety that prompts people to use victim-blaming to protect themselves from the mental anguish of the concept that anyone can be cheated on at any time.

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