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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Well, my FIL cheated back in the early 80s and we are still dealing with the consequences. They're selfish people, that's all. [/quote]

Was there a love child? Can nobody forgive? That's almost 40 years your family has been dealing with this. This seems like their problem. I'd have to say I've got no respect for you in-laws of they can't figure shit pout after 40 years.[/quote]

You are an unimaginative idiot. The issue is that the blow-up of the family caused logistical and practical repercussions that the adult kids are still cleaning up. SAHM MIL was left with little financial resources so the kids pitched in when they were in their young 20s. (And yes she got a job.)  FIL eventually married AP, but AP got him to buy her an apartment and later abandoned him the minute he got sick, so he was broke, sick, and alone. Meanwhile MIL got sick from the stress and died much earlier than she probably would have otherwise.

DH and his siblings tried at first to do what the cheaters here claim, which was to consider FIL a "good" father even though he was a rampant cheater. But as they aged, particularly after they had their own families, and they understood just how vulnerable they and their mother were made by FIL's cheating, that has fallen away. Eventually they prioritized MIL and their own families when things got busy. Years later, one of his kids hasn't seen him in years, the others see him maybe once a year at most. They all live across the the country from him so seeing him requires effort, and none of them are very interested. They pay for his nursing home. But there isn't really any sense of a fatherly relationship. It's not hate or anger. Just apathy. [/quote]

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