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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve done the ghosting.  If I explained why I no longer wanted to be friends, it would be worse than the ghosting.  There just is no nice way to put it.

Like OP, our kids were in school together and we lived in the same neighborhood; but then we moved and I used the opportunity to end the relationship.

To me, the mom was just too much.  Her daughters behavior was the result of a dx.  Except every time she tried to get the dx confirmed, the drs said it wasn’t.  So she found another reason for her DDs behavior and chased another dx.  Name brands were very important to her.  If I didn’t know the same of the fancy resort she was vacationing at, she was dismissive.  She stormed into school one day during a class event and proceed to call the other parents bullys.  Except the parents were trying to protect their children from her DD.  She was late and didn’t see the event and immediately sided with her DD.

There is no nice way to tell someone that their behavior is just something you don’t want to associate with.  So I ghosted her.  It’s not nice but it’s nicer than the alternative.  [/quote]

If I were that other mom, I'd want to know though.  She may not even realize what she's doing and it would be a kindness to tell her.  That said, I would never offer that up if you weren't asked.[/quote]

I'm not sure about that.  Some people just don't like.  PP said "[u]to me[/u], the mom was just too much."  Other people wouldn't be bothered by her behavior.  Also, the snootiness isn't something someone can turn around.  It's one thing to inadvertently say something that comes across wrong and be informed about it and change the way you word things, it's another to act like this woman did.  If name brands were important to her, then telling her that was something that bugged you isn't going to stop that being important to her.  She can just find other like-minded people to hang out with. [/quote]

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