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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it freeing when people reveal who they really are. No need to worry over this. Why not put time, energy, love and care into other relationships with real, two-way street people?

She's honestly not worth another thought.[/quote]

I have to say that this is so true, but sometimes it can take getting farther away from the situation than you currently are to realize it.  I had a friend whose husband was in his medical residency so he was never around.  As a result, she spent almost all her time with me.  Not a day went by when we didn't text or call or see each other multiple times and she was a bridesmaid in my wedding.  Anyway, one day she stopped talking to me and wouldn't tell me why.  I then found out from a mutual friend that she thought I had said something which I had not and she apparently decided that instead of trying to have a conversation with me about what had upset her (which would have resolved the issue since I was not the person who had said the thing she was upset about), she decided to bad mouth to everyone we knew, try to turn my best friend (who also knew her) against me, and basically acted like a child about the whole thing.  I realized eventually that I really didn't want to be friends with someone who acted like that, nor be friends with someone who thought I was the kind of person who would say the thing I was being accused of.  So I made peace with not having her in my life anymore and it was very freeing.  I actually had a dream about her years later where she apologized for what had happened and asked to be friends again and my first thought was no, a tiger doesn't change its stripes and I really don't need a friend who treats people like that.  I hope you can come to the same conclusion soon, OP.  This person is not considerate or kind or thoughtful or any of the things a good friend should be.  It's ok to be sad that the friendship is over, but realize that you really are better off without someone like that in your life.[/quote]

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