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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous]OP- not to be harsh, but your mom isn't the only enabler.

You're an adult going to hang out with another adult family member who physically assaulted you -- and you're bringing your kids. 
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My family is dysfunctional too and we had a lifelong alcoholic- there was an enabler/excuser and other family members provided emotional support for that person.  It's an eff'd up family dynamic. [/quote]

+100. Nailed it.[/quote]

Op you haven't mentioned in-laws.  How about Christmas with the in-laws this year.  Or even a Christmas at home relaxing, making a huge feast.

This isn't small, your family is abusive.  Your mother and father allow the abuse.  For me I wouldn't be around my sister again unless she got help.

You are so worried about ruining Christmas for your parents but did they care when your sister assaulted you and ruined your last visit.

They want to pretend that everything is ok because it's too hard for them.  They can't fix the problem and it's certainly not on you to fix.  Visit your parents another time of year, stay in a hotel but if your sister turns up, leave.[/quote]

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