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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, you cared for your abusive dad but won't help your mom out for a few months. Your mom, who raised you and likely shielded you from your dad's abuse?  Sounds like you're blaming her for your dad's actions, which is pretty crappy.[/quote]

my grandmother raised me and when she passed, [b]I basically raised myself.[/b] My mom has always attached to men. I love my mom dearly and talk to her everyday, [b]but she has some bad qualities[/b] and I'm nervous about bringing it into our home.  [/quote]

You were the end-of-life caretaker for your abusive alcoholic father but your mom nags about watering your plants so she should stay out of your home in her time of need.

Okay.[/quote]
To be fair to the OP, it sounds like it was a time of true need for the dad, but it's more of a convenience for mom.  OP could very well be willing to have mom stay if it's an end-of-life situation or if mom was completely out of money.  Here, mom is presumably healthy and could afford an apartment, so I think it's unfair of you to expect OP to treat the two situations exactly the same.[/quote]

I'm not expecting her to treat them "exactly the same."  I'm pointing out that what her dad did was a thousand times worse, but she glossed right over it.  Her mom's problem is nagging.  Oh, and choosing the wrong men, but she won't support her when she leaves the wrong man.   [/quote]

Did Op say that she moved her dad into her own house and took care of him until his death?  I don't think she did say that.  Op probably wasn't the one doing the actual hands on care of her father although she may have been overseeing that care in some sort of nursing situation (facility? care in his home?).

Unless there is some reason that Op's mom can not directly move into her own place then Op can maybe help her mom find a suitable place that she can move into.  [/quote]

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