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It's kind of funny but it's kind of sad too.  It seems very neurotic to me to make a 2 year-old work for 45 minutes.  I have a child that age (this is my third child) and she doesn't have the type of attention span that would allow anything to be fun for 45 minutes.  That's very typical for her age too.  Maybe playdough  or swimming but certainly not housework.  Also, this woman freely admits to "pushing" the kid.  I'm thinking that if the kid is really excited about doing the work and feels a great sense of accomplishment, it's because the mom is putting a lot of pressure on her and is giving her so much praise when she does it right.  [b]She also says that the other kid is being ignored while playing.  So, in effect, they get to take turns being in mommy's favor.  [/b]It's hard to imagine that any of this is healthy.  I am all for teaching responsibilities and giving kids age appropriate chores but come on... this is over the top.[/quote]

The truth is that it's impossible for me or anyone else here to know if the PP is a good parent or a bad parent. I just found her wording very disturbing in the context of the conversation about parentified kids. She might be doing a great job or she might be pushing them too hard. there is no way for any of us to know. [b]My previous comment wasn't about leaving one kid to play alone; it was about the possibility of playing the children off one another and having one be in favor for the day because that one is being the little adult[/b]. None of this will make much sense to people who don't understand the concept of parentification. But if you want to hijack the conversation just to give your opinion on a person's parenting that you have never even met, there is nothing I can do about it. I admit that I could be wrong but the wording sounding like there was a strong possibility of some parentification going on there. It's important to note that there are different types of parentification and one of those describes children who are given too much responsibility to do the tasks that adults should be doing.

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You were not talking about a "possibility" - you were very matter of fact when you said pp ignored one of her kids and set them up to be in mom's favor. PP never said such thing, she said they do like to play alone sometimes - the older child because he/she has the opportunity to play without the constant interruption of the younger, and the younger because he has the opportunity to play with toys that are usually monopolized by the older. You like to play and manipulate words to fit your bias. It is too back your childhood sucked, but stop projecting your issues to every other family out there that chooses a different approach on parenting. You know, some families are horrible enough to pay big bucks to enroll their kids in Montessori preschools so they learn and do all this stuff you are so set against it. Get over yourself.[/quote]

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