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It's kind of funny but it's kind of sad too.  It seems very neurotic to me to make a 2 year-old work for 45 minutes.  I have a child that age (this is my third child) and she doesn't have the type of attention span that would allow anything to be fun for 45 minutes.  That's very typical for her age too.  Maybe playdough  or swimming but certainly not housework.  Also, this woman freely admits to "pushing" the kid.  I'm thinking that if the kid is really excited about doing the work and feels a great sense of accomplishment, it's because the mom is putting a lot of pressure on her and is giving her so much praise when she does it right.  She also says that the other kid is being ignored while playing.  So, in effect, they get to take turns being in mommy's favor.  It's hard to imagine that any of this is healthy.  I am all for teaching responsibilities and giving kids age appropriate chores but come on... this is over the top.[/quote]

Wow.  I'm the original PP and I must say I feel a bit misunderstood.  By "pushing" I certainly didn't mean that I force them to work, simply that I provide lots of opportunities and support for them to practice "helping" with adult tasks.  As for not being interested for 45 minutes of work, it's not like they are scrubbing the floor for 45 minutes.  They stay with me for my afternoon dishes/dinner/trash/tidy the kitchen/set the table routine, helping where ever there's something they can do, which is most of the time.  As for the idea that the child who helps is getting my favor and attention, while the kid who's having the day off is neglected, I say much for that.  Yes, one kid is with me and the other is playing independently.  My older kid really enjoys having time to build a tower, etc. without the toddler underfoot, and on the toddler's days he enjoys having a chance to play with the toys his sibling typically monopolizes.  I used to let the both help, but they inevitably ended up fighting over which one got to do the favorite chores (like opening the fridge, or using a washcloth) so I decided we should take turns.

Whatever.  I'm sure everyone who's still reading this thread is already convinced I'm a terrible mom.  How dare I defy their expectations![/quote]

PP, please do a favor to us all and stop trying to explain yourself. It is clear to the "ears" (or eyes) or normal people who have good reading comprehension skills that you are in fact doing a great job and your kids are having fun. However, there are some freaks out there who are determined to find a fault with your parenting - so now leaving a child playing by herself for 45min is ignoring the child huh? Wow, talk about over the top! Crazy freaks.[/quote]

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