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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This is OP again. I’m going to stop reading this thread because it’s starting  to get tough. But to the PP who said she owes it to her kids to live her values - thank you.

I’ve held the hand of a friend in high school who got pregnant and was scared to death and decided to terminate. I did the same when I was an RA in college for one of my charges. And again, to a friend who got pregnant unexpectedly with a boyfriend in early stages of dating (they went on to have two wonderful children after they married). In all these cases, I supported these women, listened to them and told them it would be okay. I told them they knew what’s best for themselves. For my own children, I remind them we are human and we make mistakes and we just do what we can to live kindly and compassionately to each other and ourselves.

And yet this week, I have been brutally hard on myself. I have been hating myself for paving the path for this terrible experience. And while I have always believed every child should be wanted and women should not be bound by other people’s opinions on what’s best for them, I have been considering making a lifelong commitment because of a very reckless mistake.

And so I will walk the walk, and I will live in the values I teach my children. And I will be compassionate to myself and remind myself that I am human and I made a mistake and I regret the situation we got ourselves into. However, I made the right decision for myself and my family. I will be heartbroken for awhile and while these comments don’t help, I appreciate the reminder that I am walking the walk with how I teach my children to approach mistakes they have made and how life is hard enough. Hating oneself and feeling shame just make it harder. Thanks for listening. I truly appreciate the support from many of you. And I’m feeling more and more reassured that we did the right thing even though it feels horrible right now. [/quote]

Thank you for your updates OP. I am glad you have come to the right decision for your family.

Ignore the haters.[/quote]

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