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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Lots of good feedback here OP. Is DH actively looking for a job and spending time on that, or is he a SAHD for the near future!? They really aren’t the same thing. The job issue is what really needs to be addressed first and foremost IMHO. Even if he takes something lesser (just enough to pay for daycare)- maybe he would be happier??

As for the household chores- as other have said, it depends. Toddler is the toughest age as a SAHP IME. Lawn mowing is clearly out when he is home with the baby. Heavy cleaning can be challenging. Laundry, general picking up,  errands - yes, those should be doable. Also depends on the temperament of you child to some degree- some are more difficult than others.

I think you need to sit down and have a talk with DH and get to the bottom of the job question. Figure out what the plan is regarding that. It doesn’t sound like either of you want him to be a SAHD so it isn’t surprising that it isn’t working out well. That should really be the focus. [/quote]

This. The current arrangement isn’t working. The two of you need to sit down and Talk about what the goal is here. Is it to (1) have DH get a job or (2) for DH to be successful as a SAHP ? There are strategies and compromises for both- for both of you individually and for your marriage. The rest of this is really just background noise (chores etc) and at this point is just a distraction from the real issue at hand. [/quote]

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