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[quote=Anonymous]NP.  I think this is what's going on--OP correct me if I'm wrong.

OP is younger than her siblings and unlike them, grew up around the object, so it's sentimental to her and not to them.

Therefore, a copy is not the same to OP.  She wants the original.

She is worried that her siblings will get grabby with her and want the object just because she wants it.

She feels more entitled to the object, because she has the sentimental feelings toward it, but believes they'd get grabby either because they are grabby, or because it becomes a power situation.

She's thinking, in tort language..."Take and Pay."  That it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission.

All good, OP, until you don't want to pay your siblings.

The object is worth MORE than market value to you because you have sentimental value attached to it.

So if you want this thing AND want to keep your relationships intact, I vote Take and Pay.  Take, then offer MORE than 1/3.  "There was a water leak so fixed it, but in doing so I had to move Object to my house. Object is worth 20K--see valuation attached to this email-- so I'm mailing each of you a check for 8K, which is over 1/3."

How is that, OP?[/quote]

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