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DP here. I will take your concepts further and say that individuals carry within themselves different risks. My son has severe ADHD, which poses a significant risk to his own safety. My daughter is very petite, which makes her more of an easy target. Every child has a different maturity level and physical attributes over which they have little control.

Instead of issuing idiotic blanket statements and unfair accusations like previous posters have done, let each parent worry about their own child and accept that others know their child well and make the right decisions for them.

It's a matter of respect. Respect other's decision-making.

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OP here.. yes, this part of it. DD is very petite, has a lot of anxiety, and generally does not react well in emergency situations. She tends to panic and freeze up.

DS has always been much more aware and focused.

It's a bit like leaving your child home alone. When DS was 9, I had no problem leaving him at home for an hour because he is more mature.  At 11, I still feel uncomfortable leaving DD at home alone for an hour because of her tendencies to panic and freeze up during an emergency situation. She has a lot more fears than DS ever did. She's in therapy for her anxieties and other issues.

And I certainly am not sexist. I'm actually quite a feminist, but different children need to be parented differently because they are all different.

My sister faced the same situation, and she has two daughters. One daughter is street smart and tough, and my sister never really worries about her being out. The other one is a lot more fearful and has anxieties, and my sister worries about her more.

My mother is the same way with me and my sisters. My mother said to me that she never worries about me (as an adult) because she knows I can handle myself, whereas one of my sisters is not as capable. It's not like she tried to parent us differently, but that my sister and I are very different.[/quote]
How will your dd ever gain some confidence with a mother like you? It is clear that you are highly anxious person yourself and she is picking up on that.[/quote]

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