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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You could've skipped all the extra explanation. You can't afford for the whole family to go. Send DH alone. End of story.[/quote]

[quote]And you sound super bitchy and stupid if you think some I should go into debt to attend somebody’s wedding[/quote]

[quote]See now this is why Americans are loaded down with so much unnecessary debt!
all these people claiming that just because you are related you are somehow you have to go into debt, spend money you cannot afford money, you don’t have to attend somebody’s event that they came up with.
Not their funeral, not a medical bill, not some emergency medical issue but to attend a wedding .
They must be smoking the biggest crack rock ever made[/quote]

All of you seem to have read only half of the OP (which is understandable considering how long it was), but you still seem like your response was TL;DR.

OP said that if they mentioned it, her FIL, who has a lot of money, would pay for what they could not afford.  So, they don't need to go into debt for this.  OP does not want to be indebted to her FIL just for a wedding that she doesn't want to go to.  But the fact that her FIL would pay for at least the plane tickets it not the plane tickets and the resort fees, takes the financial concern out of the picture.

It's family and her husband's only sibling and the first time he is getting married.  And he's asked his brother (OP's husband) to be in the wedding party.  For this, you suck it up, let FIL pay for the trip, with whatever guilty parent strings he wants to attach and you go to the wedding.  If not, you both deserve to be cut off from BIL and FIL and his wealth.  Because you deliberately turned your back on a sibling when you didn't need to.  It is a selfish decision to refuse to ask FIL for help to attend the wedding just to get out of it.  Don't expect that side of the family to come to you if you reach out to them in the future because you chose to be unnecessarily rude on a special family occasion.[/quote]

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