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That's funny to be me because psychological literature has done nothing but reiterate that women are pack animals and do nothing alone. Shocking to see that wow, maybe the traits girls and women were derided for are in boys all along.

Second, boys in a sports or organization doesn't change the fact that other youths perpetrate isolation against the individual they see as weak or unfit. A lot of mass shooters were lones for a reason. From Columbine to Stoneman Douglas they didn't fit in and you can't [i]make[/i] the other students accept them fully.[/quote]

It's actually more like girls have BFFs and boys have packs:
http://content.time.com/time/health/article/0,8599,1911103,00.html

And that boys do desire a BFF scenario:
https://www.newyorker.com/books/page-turner/ask-an-academic-the-secrets-of-boys

I read that boys really need a tribe and strong father figures from these two books (which I take with a grain of salt).

https://www.amazon.com/Boys-Should-Be-Secrets-Raising/dp/034551369X/ref=pd_bxgy_14_2/139-9287213-2435627?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=034551369X&pd_rd_r=18a8e4a0-3456-44eb-9336-9f695400c771&pd_rd_w=ds2hT&pd_rd_wg=8pTRk&pf_rd_p=a2006322-0bc0-4db9-a08e-d168c18ce6f0&pf_rd_r=Q6TD7FGKC0F5AZ5RBN2X&psc=1&refRID=Q6TD7FGKC0F5AZ5RBN2X
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1942952716/ref=sspa_dk_detail_3?psc=1&spLa=ZW5jcnlwdGVkUXVhbGlmaWVyPUEzSzkyQ0o4MU9XSFFOJmVuY3J5cHRlZElkPUEwNjY5MTczMThaWldWTDJXNkJONSZlbmNyeXB0ZWRBZElkPUEwMTIwODYwTFYyS0c2WFNDRFVCJndpZGdldE5hbWU9c3BfZGV0YWlsJmFjdGlvbj1jbGlja1JlZGlyZWN0JmRvTm90TG9nQ2xpY2s9dHJ1ZQ==

Finally: I'm not saying that lone wolfs can be changed when they are biologically prone that way (Adam Lanza played little league after all-- it wasn't a magic pill to solve his many issues.) I'm saying that they are seeing that we need to reinforce their ability to create lasting friendships in whatever means possible because they long for it in the long run. And this might, just might, negate the isolation they feel if we start emphasizing the need for adult, male, BFFs:

https://www.goodhousekeeping.com/life/parenting/a26343803/boy-friendships/
https://nyuscholars.nyu.edu/en/publications/boys-friendships-during-adolescence-intimacy-desire-and-loss

Also good reading here:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2018/lifestyle/being-a-boy-age-8/
https://www.washingtonpost.com/graphics/2018/lifestyle/being-a-boy-ages-11-and-12/[/quote]

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