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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Although mental illness is a huge factor in gun violence, it's not the only thing, and a huge percentage (say 99.95%?) of people who are mentally ill are NOT mass shooters.

But there are red flags:

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/vb537a/the-wrong-conversation-about-school-shootings
https://www.theatlantic.com/politics/archive/2015/12/the-warning-signs-of-a-mass-shooting/433527/

The problem though, with identifying red flags (bad grades, isolation, self harm, bursts of violence, domestic assault), is that there isn't anything that the police can do about it. However, there are things that we can do. I'm not saying they work, but they are important.

https://www.sandyhookpromise.org/prevention-programs2

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The other thing, and this is a tricky thing to explain, because it is a male dominated statistic, is that it is even more apparent that there is a pack mentality to boys. They need a tribe and they need to have a sense of self worth that isn't gun related. Whether it be sports, art, music, science, church or even fashion: they have to have some kind of sense of belonging. They need their friends, like the Goonies or the Perfect Game.

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/10-ways-to-help-boys-form-the-close-friendships-they-crave/2018/02/12/a1d2df72-06c6-11e8-94e8-e8b8600ade23_story.html
https://www.chicagotribune.com/columns/heidi-stevens/ct-life-stevens-sunday-boy-friendships-0520-story.html

[b]As a woman, I value my friendships so much, but I notice it in my boys too. They need their friends. They need to have people. When my son's best friend moved away, he was devastated-- and I only know because he mentioned it to me once. He has made a new best friend(s), but the sense of belonging is ever so important.

I wish there was more data about this. My hypothesis is that for boys, having a sport or organization that helps them socialize is so important. In a way, it's almost as if our value of the individual is hurting the male population because they need to feel part of the collective (if that makes sense at all). 
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That's funny to be me because psychological literature has done nothing but reiterate that women are pack animals and do nothing alone. Shocking to see that wow, maybe the traits girls and women were derided for are in boys all along.

Second, boys in a sports or organization doesn't change the fact that other youths perpetrate isolation against the individual they see as weak or unfit. A lot of mass shooters were lones for a reason. From Columbine to Stoneman Douglas they didn't fit in and you can't [i]make[/i] the other students accept them fully.[/quote]

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