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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I predict more and more services with pop up that go beyond the usual aides for hire. There are already some to help with things like driving to appointments, companionship,  managing bills, etc when person is no longer able, but I predict it will become a more popular industry. Even when you are there sometimes, especially when dementia is involved, even a loving parent can turn into an angry tyrant as the disease progresses. Despite the lack of awareness somehow for strangers they are sometimes better. I think there will have to more psychotherapists specializing in caregiver support too. I really never imagined what a living hell it can turn into if you don't hire out a lot of things when the parent gets difficult. I think anyone who guilttrips primary or secondary caregivers for hiring help all the way to putting the person is a well run Memory Care should think twice. It could be you one day sandwiched and beaten down verbally or in very sad cases physically by a parent is fading. Help helps. Help is healthy. It is OK to put the family you created first and to realize you cannot keep giving and getting metaphorically kicked in the gut.

My heart goes out to all my fellow sandwich generation folks no matter what amount you do. It's heart-wrenching. Too often it's hard to even come by a a sincere "thank you" for all the sacrifices you make.[/quote]

Yes, all very true.  And experienced this below in spades - devoted each day to bird-dogging DF's finances and care only to be yelled at by him for taking his checkbook away.

"Even when you are there sometimes, especially when dementia is involved, even a loving parent can turn into an angry tyrant as the disease progresses. "  [/quote]

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