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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was also wondering the same. Why mention that the kid is adopted, what does this have to do with bat mitzvah[/quote]

When you go through the adoption process the social worker wants to make sure you will preserve the child's cultural identity as much as possible. The child's culture is supposed to supersede the parent's.[/quote]

I'm a social worker who's main responsibility is to solidify adoptions, and what you just wrote here is just about the most absurd thing I've ever read.  You clearly made this up.

Your statement is also the exact OPPOSITE of what we instruct parents.

How on earth would a child EVER feel integrated, comfortable or fully acclimated into an adoptive family, if the family is constantly pointing out their differences and blatantly treating them as not only a foreigner, but as differently from the adoptive family as possible?

What you're essentially saying is that any other children in the household would be raised American, but the adopted child would be raised as Chinese.

Regardless if the Chinese child is the only Chinese person the family knows, dog gone it that child can't be raised as one of us - we HAVE to raise her Chinese!  Rules are rules!

Let me take a crack at how this conversation would go...

"Hey honey, it says here in this email from our social worker, that we shouldn't treat little Emily the same as the rest of the kids - we by law have to treat her differently.  Well, l guess we'll have to treat every single one of our bio kids the same way as us, but then we'll treat just her differently.
Ok, sound like a plan??  
Oh don't worry, she definitely won't feel ostracized, left out or rejected, because she'll have her culture of origin to keep her company, right?? 
Doesn't this sound like a SUPER inclusive plan to you??"

Ok, PP... you need to provide links for this BS statement of yours, or we'll know you just made it up.

Show us in writing where it states that the child's culture of origin is supposed to *supersede* the parents.

We'll wait...

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