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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]FWIW, I'm a semi-semite on the wrong side (my Dad's side) who was raised Unitarian.  DNA test says 50% Ashkenazi, so I think the tests know what they are talking about.

If you aren't religious but something about Judiasm is inspiring your DH, by all means encourage him to explore it!  He can absolutely find a community around here if he's interested.   He doesn't need any genealogic link if he wants to convert.  He is looking for meaning and finding it somewhere so good for him![/quote]

Agree - also on the “wrong” side as I commented above. DNA test showed 50% Ashkenazi, exactly as expected. No one has been anything but extremely supportive of me exploring the Jewish faith. Honestly, you don’t seem very supportive. This is a pretty harmless pursuit, all things considered. [/quote]

Well, doesn't a lot depend on whether he wants to raise the kids Jewish? That's a big issue for many people. If it's just DH exploring that's one thing, but if he wants to raise the kids Jewish, that's a separate conversation. There are non-Jews who send their kids to Jewish preschools but I'm guessing he wants to send his kids so they get the Jewish education he didn't get.

I think the genetic stuff is a bit of a red herring honestly. He can do the test if it will make him feel better to see if he has Ashkenazi or Sephardic heritage, but at the end of the day he knows very little about Judaism and will need to learn if that's the route he wants to go. And as another PP said there is no reason he can't learn even if he has no such heritage. If Judaism calls to him and he feels that connection, then good for him. But he needs to go about it in a way that's respectful to his wife who doesn't want to convert, and work out what it will mean for his family.  I can see why OP might feel a bit intimidated, particularly if this is something that has come up recently for the first time. If my husband suddenly told me he wanted to explore another faith I'd be pretty upset. (Especially as we are both Jewish - ha.)[/quote]

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