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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was also wondering the same. Why mention that the kid is adopted, what does this have to do with bat mitzvah[/quote]

When you go through the adoption process the social worker wants to make sure you will preserve the child's cultural identity as much as possible. The child's culture is supposed to supersede the parent's.[/quote]
[b]But one can be both Chinese—the ethnicity—and Jewish—the religion.[/b]

This is an honest question: would a Jewish family who adopts a child whose bio parents are Catholic have to give their child a Catholic education?[/quote]

Jewish is a cultural identity and ethnicity. If you get DNA testing and have Jewish roots they will show up, whereas Catholic roots don't show up. Yes, a child can be Chinese and Jewish, but if a child identifies more as Chinese and doesn't relate as much to Jewish culture, many would argue Chinese should be first and foremost. This goes of course for anything...Latin American, African.

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Correct but this child was adopted and probably went through a conversion at the time so the child is both.  Its no different than a family raising a child in Christianity or another religion when it wasn't their birth parents religion or culture.[/quote]

DP. Here’s what I told my former SIL about the difference between her transracially adopted son and her friend’s adopted white son who is the same race. “Your child’s face tells part of his story. He can’t easily step into any shul in the US and be accepted the way Friend’s white son can. Give him options for finding community.”[/quote]

You do realize its not as simple as that and there are plenty of kids who were adopted in the Jewish community.  Regardless of adoption, no kid has a choice of religion except in a rare family and kids are part of the religion the parents choose.  I'm Jewish and there are a lot of Shul's that would not be welcoming to me as I am not religious.   You are making it about race and it should not be.  The white child may have had a different religion and not have the look and feel the same way.  Both my parents are Jewish and I feel no connection because of how I as raise.  This isn't an adoption issue.  It sounds like its an undiagnosed learning disability.[/quote]

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