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[quote=Anonymous]I was in this situation. My mom would frequently “accuse” me of being gay, as if it were a bad thing, because in her mind it was the only possible explanation for why a girl wouldn’t be on the receiving end of male attention. I wasn’t gay, just unpopular. I found out later that my sister spread a rumor  that I was a lesbian during my freshman year to get back at me for some little thing I must have done, so for the duration of h.s. I was ignored by boys. This was obviously a very long time ago, and both my mother and sister now have diagnosed mental health issues which explains a lot but doesn’t forgive their behavior.

Anyway, I say this to tell both you to get out of DD’s business if you’re trying to find reasons for why she isn’t dating. It is what it is, and anything beyond that implies that she isn’t complete if she’s not receiving male attention. Give her attention for other things and let this rest. If she comes to you for advice, treat it really casually and move on. Seriously, don’t engage and don’t think about it.

I promise she’s thinking about it plenty on her own, but the feeling of letting others down by not hitting the perfect mix of perceived beauty/coolness/popularity in h.s. is bad enough without knowing that the adults around you are wondering what’s wrong with you. It’s not totally unlike being an adult and dealing with fertility issues and having people constantly ask when you’re going to have a baby. [/quote]

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