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[quote=Anonymous]No OP, 15 is too young. Have them over to your house.

My son turned 16 in April. Between 14-15 he distanced himself from groups that were experimenting. This summer it was all about beach bonfires with 50++ kids. He has been honest with me about things that went down. We live in a small beach town, beach is walkable. He also said no jungle juice allowed and the kids who are posting about bonfires state "upper classmen only". My kid is not allowed to post about bonfires on social media. He does not vape, told me he has a half beer once in a while. I believe him because DH and I are always home. He sees us when he comes home. He's not allowed to go to "open house parties" as they're called. As a matter of fact, last bonfire he sent a text to go to a house party and I said no. Turns out many kids were called to police station post party due to a broken window etc.

Another bonfire on Saturday and another call asking if a small group of friends could hang out at our house. Of course because I'm here. Kids hung out in cottage with bathroom, kitchen, open studio. They had their own space, pool and plenty of snacks. Kids kept floating in. My home is open and I can hear everything, everywhere. There were more girls floating in than boys. No one made it to the cottage without me introducing myself, asking who they were and if their parents knew they were here and how they were getting home. I also popped in to cottage and introduced myself, gave a friendly run down and asked about one car in driveway. Told the owner that they could not leave without letting me know and if they needed a ride, they were welcome to leave car. Every uber that came, I made pull into driveway, and I asked details. Girls that drove were stone cold sober, told me they did not drink and they don't vape and thanked me for caring. At midnight, a mom picked up two boys who were almost 16. They were supposed to spend the night but it was veto'd. I met mom, we talked, told her I get it and don't allow my son to hang out at random house parties. Now she knows me and all is well.

I was awake until 3 am. A few boys slept over and that is how it goes. If kids don't like it, they won't come back. They boys stayed over for 2 nights until I kicked them out. This won't be a common occurrence but at least they all know this will not be a host house. Told the boys they're welcome anytime. Also told them the rules aren't negotiable, that I do care about them but don't love them enough to be a liability. A little humor goes a long way. [/quote]

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