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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]If all my siblings got together and I was the only one excluded, I would absolutely be sad. For whatever reason, SIL doesn't like OP and OP's brother isn't willing to make waves. [/quote]

My husbands siblings get together in random groups all the time.  The only thing that makes this weird is that it is Labor Day weekend.  But why blame SIL and not the brother.  Maybe the OPs brother needs to step up and help hosting and SIL is tired of doing all the work.

Or maybe OP is the only family with kids.  Having kids changes the event.  We are the only family with a kid in my husbands family and we understand that they have kid free get togethers (although it is not a cook out). [/quote]

Agree that it could just be them getting together and no other issue.  It could also be them purposefully excluding you. Does this happen a lot? How do they treat you otherwise?

I come from a large family and my siblings did purposefully exclude me due to one brother and SIL not wanting us around  - we get along great with everyone else (though it really is down to my brother not stepping up and saying it's not ok).  I let it go for years because I thought - just like all these other posters - that siblings should be able to get together separately. It got so bad that they stopped including us in major holidays, or let me know when relatives came to town. I would regularly invite them all over to our place and they "had other commitments".  So it isn't just paranoia.

If it is a pattern, you might want to talk to your brother and let him know that you enjoy getting together and see if there is anything that is preventing it from happening on his end. 
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