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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. How nice it must be for all of you rude posters to never have done something you feel ashamed of. I slept with him two times - didn’t carry on an affair. This is not my habit. I’m considering telling his wife (strongly leaning toward not, now) because it’s evident to me that this man is a habitual cheater. If it were me, I would want to know. However, everyone is different and perhaps she’s turning a blind eye. Given his behavior I’m sure she’ll discover something at some point.

I’m washing my hands of the situation. [/quote]

I’m a little unclear - would it have been ok if he were not a habitual cheater and you were the only time he cheated?

Do you think it’s somehow less worse that you only slept with a married man twice?

Do you feel less worse because you think he love-bombed you?  You were clearly OK times #1 and 2 thinking that you were sleeping with a married guy because he “loved you”.

You should be deeply ashamed of yourself.  You should get yourself to therapy ASAP to figure out why you would do such an awful thing.  What are your (messed up) notions about love that made you feel that sleeping with him was right and good for you?

Plan on therapy and celebacy for at least a year while you fix yourself so that you stop damaging other people. Own your mistake fully - you can’t simy do that by tatling on him to her.

That said - only when you are fully able to own your role in this and apologize sincerely, should you reveal the affair.

As the ex wife of a cheater - I’d want to know. Knowledge is power and cheating is abuse, abuse that you participated in.

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