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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It just sounds wrong, and it's vulgar. And vulgar things coming out of a little child's mouth is just wrong.

I swore like sailor when I was younger. I try not to swear in front of my MS/HS children, and in return, they respectfully not say those words in front of me. I know they say it, just not in front of me.[/quote]

I hear it's vulgar all the time, but never *why* it's vulgar?  And you need something more than your mother said so.  [/quote]

Vulgar is just an opinion pp. It meant whatever it is is offensive. The reality of the world and our culture is that a lot of people find swearing vulgar and so part of growing up and raising kids so they can be successful is to ensure they know what's offensive so they can learn to edit. [/quote]

Sigh.  OK, so you've defined vulgar as offensive, which is also just an opinion and offers nothing to answer the question.   So now, why is swearing offensive?

Also, as for being successful in life - you are under the impression that successful people don't swear?  I think you haven't been around many successful people.

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Well you're seem pretty rude so I can see why this confuses you.

All language basically only has meaning because we give it meaning. What those meanings are are essentially collectively agreed upon by the culture and population so we can all be commonly understood.

At every point in history, in every culture, certain words are labeled offensive/ vulgar/ swears. So it's offensive because there is a common understanding that everyone involved in the conversation knows those words are offensive and when someone chooses to say them there is some assumption that they are choosing to try to offend. So the recipient interprets according to the way the words are used culturally.

Of course smart people swear. I swear. But I dont swear at a Starbucks barista or my grandmother or my boss because those people will or could be offended and I don't want to risk that.

If you don't teach your kid how to edit based on their audience (in many ways not just in regards to swearing) than they'll be less socially accepted.

The human contract on communication is collectively decided, and just because you disagree, it won't change how you're interpreted. [/quote]

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