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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Wow.  Oh my goodness.  Not at all the reaction I was expecting.

I am being a bit selfish that I want my children to have all 4 grandparents and a normal life.  Is that so bad?

I do not want drama.  I was hoping that a large event like this would be the easiest time for no drama because we will barely see anyone.  There would be no reason to speak with them one on one. We try to every year to wish them a happy new year and every year, they use the opportunity to respond about how I ruined their son's life or tell my husband that he is an awful son (yes, half the time, they blame their own child).  I'm 45 years old and over all this drama and just want us to get along and put our differences aside for our son.

Well, has anyone repaired the relationship at all?  To be clear, the therapist and my husband think any repair is a bad idea.  I am sad for my children.  I wanted something better for my children.  Will we never see them again?  Is that just "the facts of life"?

I don't understand why we can get along with my family, who have some problems, but we cannot get along with my in laws because they have bigger problems.  It's sad.[/quote]

The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.

Why do you think that inviting them to the bar mitzvah is going to yield a different result from the one you get every year when you wish them a happy New Year?[/quote]

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