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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]Dp. Why do you think your mother owes you childcare? They are your kids yo raise and it doesn't sound very appealing after raising your own kids. Would you ever think of asking or asuming a man would want to raise your kids? Assuming your swap genders in your story. It says a lot about how little you value your mom's time.[/quote]

Agree.  This is bizarre.   DH and I are 52.  We have two grandkids that we absolutely adore.  But I have no desire to provide child care. I’m a Grammy, not a child care provider.  I love taking care of them when they visit.  And I’m always happy to have them when the kids need a date night.  But I raised my kids.  I’m not interested in raising my grandkids.  Thankfully, my DIL stays at home. [/quote]

Give it a rest. The point as I took it was that her mother squandered her own retirement and sits on her ass now. But, will no doubt be looking for help from her daughter when the time comes. And will, like many boomers, see no issue with doing so despite not being interested in helping out with other family situations when needed.

And frankly, your viewing your relationship with your grandchildren as "not a child care provider" is just sad. Thankfully my wonderful grandparents didn't take that view and had a big hand in raising their grandchildren. Picking us up from school. Taking us in the summer for long stretches, taking us overnight. That's what family does - help out in both directions. Hope you're not looking for elder care when you need it.[/quote]

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