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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there money there? If so, simply give a choice. Can you take mom to the x procedure and stay overnight to monitor after or should I hire someone and take the money from her account?

I have found my siblings want an inheritance, but they don't want to do any labor. If it's a matter of you needing to be reimbursed for your time you could find out the going rate and say, "I can do this for x an hour or we can hire someone. Which do you prefer?"  I don't think siblings understand the financial sacrifices made to be the caregiver and what it does to your career when you are taking off time and stressed out during work.[/quote]

Or make your own choice and start hiring things out.[/quote]

The reason I suggest a choice is people get very crazy over their perceived inheritance. Sometimes you need to spell it out. You do this or we get someone to do it for a FEE. That way they are well aware money is coming out and why. They can step up to the plate or not, but they at least are being warned the money they think they somehow deserve will go toward care. Otherwise down the line you can expect some entitled jerks to make accusations and because their precious money isn't the amount they thought.[/quote]

This. Hire out as much as you can and be transparent. [/quote]

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