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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My dad and I do not have a good relationship.  It is cordial but very distant.  I’m local.  My much younger sister has a significantly better relationship with him.  She lives on the West Coast.

He flies her in to help him.  She is not married and has no kids.   I’ve told them both I’m willing to do whatever—drs appts, food shopping, dinner, whatever I can do.  They both say thank you and then go about their business.  I’ve also spoken to my sister about this and reiterated that I am here and will help with whatever she needs.

But the truth is that my dad does not want me; he wants my sister.  For now, it works for them.  I do feel that I’m not pulling my weight but I’m not sure what else I can do anymore.[/quote]

I think you have done the right thing. Just periodically thank her for what she does and remind her again that you are willing to help. At some point she may get burned out and take you up on your offer. For now it sounds like they both are happy with how things are going.[/quote]

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