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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I was the one who did all the work taking care of my father the last seven years of his life. My two siblings would visit once every 18 months or so and would sometimes call on his birthday, Father's Day, Thanksgiving, and Christmas. I was the least favored child, too. I also got my father's house ready for sale, went through the sale process, and got his estate set up in revocable and irrevocable trusts so the proceeds would be distributed easily after his death.

There were definitely some low points those seven years. Do I wish they had done more? Absolutely. But I had no control over what they did. I could only control my own actions. I feel that I did the very best that I could, and I was glad to be there during his last days and be able to say goodbye. I have no regrets. I gave my siblings ample opportunity to visit, and they didn't do it, even during the last two months when I told them he was failing fast. Now they wish they had done things differently. It's sad.[/quote]
I definitely focus on the “not having any regrets” aspect. In fact, when I start to feel resentful and unkind, I try to focus on that. I often vent to my, adult, children, but then realize that I am modeling for them how to care for an elderly parent![/quote]

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