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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Our older parent passed away suddenly (they were quite self sufficient), but I hear you on the resentment, OP.

I was the one who did 95% of the house cleanout. One of my siblings never even visited the house (while still visiting the area a couple times a year), in the nearly 10 years we owned, emptied, renovated, rented, and eventually sold the house. I never got an extra cent from the estate. I don't know how people can't see outside of themselves. [/quote]

If you are the executor you can pay yourself out of the estate for your time. [b] I know this because my mother has made me her executor and has told EVERYONE that my time will be compensated out of the estate.[/b]  I don't think my siblings would fight that, but I'm glad it's out there already.[/quote]

Your mom sounds like a woman who knows about life and probably had to be a caregiver to her own parents. My mom complained incessantly about her sibling deciding to pay herself for the endless work she did while my mom did NADA. She had no empathy whatsoever. Now she expects me to be THAT sibling and she expects my siblings to do nothing.To be honest I don't want her money. I want some gratitude and respect and I will be delegating more to paid employees from their finances. The siblings will have a choice. Join in and do your part for free like I do, or I will decide what I can do for free and the rest will be done by people paid for by our parent's money.[/quote]

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