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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]She’s just hurt. Realistically, she should be happy that you still take time to see her kids and like her ex. But think of this: she imagined all of you over there (the kids too) having fun like the good old days... while she was home alone. That stings. Be patient with her. Divorce is really hard. [/quote]

Especially if she is better friends with the wife, plus doesn't sound like a friendly divorce. Honestly, I wouldn't want to be friends with people that were seeing my ex. I wouldn't want the ex to know my business, why it's sometimes best to start over.[/quote]

Well that’s very immature. I wouldn’t want our friends to completely cut off my husband if we divorced nor would I expect them to. They do like him and are friends with him. I can see Op’s friend’s hurt *since she is currently in the situation* but as a rational person on the outside I would hope we’d all agree there’s nothing inherently bad about staying friendly with both exes. I’m sure they didn’t even talk about the ex wife enough to “share her business.” [/quote]

I gave up on being friends with people who still associated with my ex after I told them he physically abused me. [/quote]

That’s obviously different  :roll: [/quote]

Says the person who responds to an abused woman with an eye roll.

My STBX was was abusive. There is no middle ground or ambiguity for me: I’d ive told you about the abuse and the alcoholism and you are friends with this vile man? Then you either 
1. Don’t believe me

Or 
2. Condone abuse.

Now I’m not crazy or bitter or anything else- but divorce reveals your friends characters- too. I choose not to be friendly with anyone who knows the truth and would seek to deny if. Being “QUIET” like a pp suggested is how I stayed trapped in abuse and chaos- no more![/quote]

+100 or more.[/quote]

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