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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would tell my son that when he is 18, he can be or do whatever he wants, and you will support it then, but at 11, not happening under my roof.[/quote]

So you would not allow a 16 or 17 year old who has said for years she is trans to essentially suppress and hide it from you?  What good will that do except to show her your love is conditional and not openly giving and accepting?  You are okay with that?[/quote]

I think people like this are either pretending to be supportive or ignorant of what being trans is like.

Before I knew DS was trans, I assumed I’d be supportive but not necessarily allow medical procedures until adulthood. I’m bi, but I was fairly ignorant of the trans community and trans people’s needs. It turns out, it’s virtually impossible to be supportive and not allow hormones and other medical interventions. I mean, you can say you love and support, but it’s the equivalent of thoughts and prayers after a shooting. The actual support is in actions, and that includes helping your child’s outside match their inside. Telling a boy he can present as female while forcing him to go through puberty and become more masculine, irreversibly masculine, is cruel beyond words. Life is already hard enough for teens, more so for trans teens with supportive families. It’s torturous for trans kids who feel alone and unsupported.

It would be like saying you support your child being a musician but not allowing them to have an instrument or music lessons, and in some cases limiting their exposure to music because you’re afraid it will corrupt them. [/quote]

What is even more cruel is to enable a course of action that makes him infertile for life.

And probably depressive, and more suicidal than otherwise.

But yeah, you'd be the coolest dad ever.[/quote]

DP.  Are you basing your "probably depressive, and more suicidal than otherwise" on studies you've read?  Or are you just pulling out of your a**?  Asking for a friend. [/quote]

You acknowledge lifelong infertility -- that's a start.

Yes, that data on depression and suicides is easily available in quality studies.[/quote]

Actually, the depression and suicide rates are higher in transgender teens who aren't supported by their families or who are bullied by those who don't approve of them, than among transgender teens with supportive families and who aren't bullied.  As far as infertility, I'd rather my child be happy and well adjusted as a transgender person than depressed and suicidal (but fertile) because I am unsupportive.  There are methods of preserving sperm and eggs, depending on the age of transition.  Adoption is also an option if egg and sperm preservation isn't.  I know many people with wonderful families that include adoptive children.  I care more about my child being happy and alive, than whether my child has biological children.[/quote]

Actually, you have no idea what you are talking about.

When you compare apples to apples, surgery tends to make things worse, not better.

Now, you might well have seen some study that says the opposite because they use subjective criteria like the one you just mentioned ("supportive" family, "bullying" around) in order to fudge the data according to bias -- that's very common in the social "sciences", especially in the US.[/quote]

What are you talking about? No one even mentioned surgery until you brought it up in this post. If you think you have to have surgery to be transgender, that’s just another example of your ignorance. [/quote]

This poster goes on this rant on literally every single thread dealing with trans kids. Clearly they had a negative personal experience and are now using that as some basis for fact, which it's not.

PP...go to a support group or to some therapy. Take your anger and misinformation away from here. [/quote]

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