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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m only interested in hearing from other adult only children. Particularly moms with small children. How do you manage feelings of loneliness? Jealousy of friends and even your spouse who have built-in support? I’m generally very positive but every time I go through a milestone (having a baby, baptism, 40th birthday, parent illness, etc) I’m reminded of how ALONE I am in the world. Yes, I have friends. I’m very involved in my community. But at the end of the day, everyone else has family to count on. To plan and host events. To travel with. To navigate caring for aging parents with. My parents are elderly. I have no aunts/uncles/first cousins. [/quote]

Therapy. 
I have siblings and aunts. We’re estranged due to significant abuse issues. I will never have a “real” or helpful mom, sister, aunt. I too feel totally alone. I have no extended family to count on — I actually have to actively prevent them from stealing from me or abusing my children. It totally sucks. It’s not an only child thing, though. [/quote]

This is OP. I think you’re probably right. As I’m reading through these responses, I’m realizing it probably isn’t an only child thing. It’s more of a no extended family to count on thing. [/quote]

Maybe. I'm one if he pls with the close parents. I have no extended family in this country to count on at all (1 young cousin in NYC who are busy with their lives and I see them once every 2 years). The rest of the extended family is in a different country and since we immigrated we are not close and never were in the first place. What I do have is the friend family my parents built and I built. I have several adults my parents age who I have know for 30 years who I can call for advice or help (and have). And several friends who I can call any time of day and night (from watching a kid to driving to picking up medications). When I had major back surgery during my husbands extended work trip a friend drove me all day to dr appointments and MRI scans. To build this we worked hard on keeping friendships alive, inviting people over often, driving to them when they moved further away, talking and listening and engaging. It's exhausting now with a kid but we do it anyway. I'm having different people over on Friday, Saturday and Sunday for dinner and I have a 4 year old and 9 months pregnant. [/quote]

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