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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Agree with PP.

A sibling guarantees none of what you listed. I have a sibling. I have not traveled with him since we were both minors under our parents’ care. He is not a built in support. He is not helping with aging parents. I’m not even entirely sure that if our parents passed away I would ever know if he died. We don’t live near each other and I only hear about him when my mother mentions something. I suspect I will never hear from him again after I settle any estate issues when our parents die. [/quote]

I agree that a sibling guarantees none of the things OP wants.  I have a sibling with whom I am not close at all.  When my parents are gone, I fully expect that I will never talk to him again.  He has all kinds of issues (and has been pretty awful to my parents, who have helped him out a ton but are done with it now) and he will be zero help as they age, zero emotional support for me, nada.  He provides no emotional support, no logistical support, nothing.  If anything, it's the opposite, since he's both needy and ungrateful.  While I wish it were otherwise, it is what it is.

My husband is closer to his siblings, but we don't travel with them, we almost never see them at holidays because everyone is scattered, and we planned his parents' wedding anniversary party entirely on our own.  They send cards or call for birthdays, they acknowledge weddings and births, but day-to-day, it's not that much, and these are people who generally get along with each other.   Based on where they live or who they married, I don't expect them to be a ton of help dealing with eldercare, although one of them might surprise me.  I fully expect that my husband will bear most of the load of that, too.  My mom had several siblings, but she did almost all the work of caring for my grandmother.

Not everyone with siblings has all the things that OP listed. [/quote]

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