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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I might not completely remember what it was like to be a high schooler, but I don't think I'd want to spend my summers away from my friends in a place where the only person I knew was my dad...[/quote]

Exactly. This sounds like a nightmare for a teen. [/quote]

NP. That scenario is exactly why my godson, now an adult, doesn't see much of his dad. Dad moved many states away but insisted high schooler son visit at times like summer when son, as a teen, was missing out on high school activities, band camp (mandatory to play in band during the school year), etc. And dad treated those visits with a lot of neediness--he really pushed son to be happy about "our special time together" and expected son to focus on him as much as he was focusing on son. It seemed like the dad was so needy, demanding his son's attention and proclaiming how much fun fun fun they were having. The result is, now that son is in his 20s, he only visits dad maybe once a year and has been resisting dad's frequent "suggestions" that son move to dad's area. The son has said in front of me that it would be "too much 'togetherness.'" Dad created this situation for himself by being so clingy and dad was so clingy because he chose to move far from his son and treated visits as some kind of sacred, intense bonding time--not as just being together as parent and child.

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