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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Man here, My 20-60-20 is your guide:

20% of men are absolute dirtbags and are cheating at every turn.
60% of men are generally faithful but if the perfect opportunity presented or if drinking with an old girlfriend will take the plunge.
20% of men are boyscouts and would turn down naked Kate Upton.

Despite that most men have or would cheat doesn't mean they aren't content in their marriage.  Monogamy is a charade.[/quote]

This is interesting. I think my husband is a boy scout. I don't think he'd cheat, not because he's so in love with me or that I'm so special (believe me, I know I'm not) but just because he's not wired that way and he wouldn't want to have to think badly of himself. He was raised Catholic and he is a lot more ethical/moral than I am. I wouldn't cheat because I know I have a good thing going with him. But I'm not super ethical like he is.[/quote]

And, frankly, I think the 20% who are boy scouts have low testosterone or low self-esteem or no swagger or little interest in sex, which doesn't exactly make them ideal husbands either.  My husband would never, ever cheat.  Unfortunately that means he also never really desires me either.[/quote]

PP here, not my experience. My husband wants sex way more often than I do. He's a 2-3 times a week guy. I'm more of a 1x a week girl, if that.[/quote]

Another boy scout wife. I think my DH does have a lower drive than normal but he desires me plenty and we actually match up perfectly![/quote]

Same here. And a lot of it is personality too. We were both virgins when we got engaged in our late 20s and it wasn't for lack of opportunities for either of us. I guess the flip side is that sex, while important, isn't the most important thing for either of us. If we were high drive I suppose waiting wouldn't even have been a factor.

I'm good with once every couple weeks except in the middle of my cycle, when I could do it a couple times a week. DH would probably be happy with once or twice a week on a regular basis. Daily for a week was rough on him when we were seriously TTC but that might have been a performance anxiety thing too.[/quote]

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