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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a DH with health & social anxiety who is chronically thinking up new diseases that he suspects he has. He has been on & off of anxiety meds but nothing has worked. He's promised to stick to a consistent exercise routine to minimize the anxiety, but doesn't follow through.

It's been 20+ years of - maybe it's a tumor, maybe it's cancer, could it be ALS? OMG! It's none of these things, except plain old anxiety. I wasn't a very patient person to begin with, but this has tested me to the limits.

The self-centered-ness of him playing out all these dire medical scenarios while I'm keeping the kids fed and house running smoothly has made be very resentful. I've outsourced housecleaning & yard work. He only does things for the house/family when explicitly asked. Never thinks ahead to what may be needed and only awaits instructions. It's tiring.[/quote]

I could have written this post. It's *always* something with my husband. A stubbed toe turns into six weeks with an air boot and a cane. indigestion turns into three days in bed.

Now that our son is a teenager he has started to kiss respect for him. It's heart breaking. I think my husband honestly believes he's incapacitated, and it's a self-fulflling prophecy. Meanwhile because he's a professional patient I always have to work through every illness. We don't have the luxury of my getting time off. [/quote]

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