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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Inattentive type. He's just switched meds. Is this hopeless? He does seem to have problems following through with planning dates and such. When we are together the chemistry is amazing, so hard to give that up! ;-)[/quote]

As a mother of a child with ADD, this breaks my heart. I get it must be hard for you. It still breaks my heart. I know how hard it is for my child. [/quote]

It can turn out OK. DC, who is 24, just got a diagnosis of ADD. This comes two years after DC graduated from a USNWR top 5 College, not summa cum laude, but with really good grades. DC works at a pretty intense policy consulting firm, and perhaps that’s not a great match, but DC is definitely viable in the work world. DC has already been in a few long-term (year or more) relationships that ended because of things like distance and people going to grad school, not the ADD. DC is applying to top grad schools. Also, we’re planning a family vacation, and DC is always thinking of details that didn’t occur to me, a NMSSF with no ADD (the ADD came from XDH). What makes the difference? DC has good self esteem, is quite bright, and has a fabulous work ethic. [/quote]

I am the poster above divorcing my ADD husband. He is a brilliant doctor and all his patients adore him. From a work standpoint, he is a super successful. That is it, that is all he can focus on. He is hyper focused on work and nothing else. He will drive my son to school every morning and drive pass the school more than 10% of the time and have to turn around. I am surprised, looking back, that he never left our child in the car. Forget being interested in my life or career.  His brain can’t focus on that stuff. He doesn’t see messes and walks right passed piles of clothes or stuff that will sit for months. 
There were warning signs while dating that I missed - subtle signs. He never remembered my family’s names or basic info. He forgot events. We talked a lot about him. 
Ensure your son has balance and empathy. It can work. [/quote]

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