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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We just went through this.  Do EVERYTHING through lawyers/court.  He, legally, is the one that should file to amend the custody and child support agreements.  He absolutely should pay more and it will drastically change the numbers.  A high school kid is not going to want to leave his hometown every summer and holiday.

We split winter break.  The one that chose to move across the country gets the kids for 3 weeks in the summer, every other spring break, and every other fall break. On non-fall break years he gets them for Thanksgiving.If he wants to fly back to visit every other weekend or whatever then let him.  On a schedule.  He might take advantage of it.

Whatever you do, do not do this on your own. Use the law to protect yourself.
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That's sad for the kids that they are so limited in time with their dad, especially to 3 weeks in the supper.  Why not just stop visitation all tother as two breaks and 3 weeks is what you'd give a relative, not parent?[/quote]

I have never sent my kids to any relative for 3 weeks and never would unless my kid was begging to.  3 weeks in the summer is much more than a usual visit with grandparents or aunts/uncles/cousins.  Some kids spend a full summer with grandparents in another state or abroad.  There is no standard “this is for relatives/this is for a parent” time period.  There are just different arrangements that work for different families.  This kid is already in HS.  He is not going to want to spend his whole summer away from his school friends, and dad would be wrong to insist on it.[/quote]

This isn't a relative.  This is the child's father. Two different situations.  We have friends send us their high school kids for several weeks in the summer.  You are missing the point that this is a parent and kids need both of their parents.  [/quote]

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