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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s funny how for thousands of years, men didn’t have ADHD. Suddenly, in the last 20 years, 70% of the men in DC have it. It seems like part of a larger trend lately to pathologize men.[/quote]

They had it, but the world was designed around men so they were able to compensate.
For thousands of years, many women helped their husbands with whatever the family did for a living. Wives caught mistakes that would have been costly and sometimes even secretly ran the entire farm or business. It also helped that people were less strict with time and there was hardly any paper to keep track of. 
If men were unsuccessful in one venture, for roughly 500 years at least some had the outlet of immigrating to various colonies or in the US striking out for the West.
Of course, the biggest thing is that people with ADHD are more likely to die in accidents. Without modern medicine to stop bleeding or deal with crush injuries, many young ADHD males died before they could marry and reproduce. After the dawn of the 20th century, many more survived to pass on those genes and then their ADHD male offspring also survived. 
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I have ADD. Just asked DH to weigh in. Does he mind doing all the bills and paperwork? He said no, because we shine in different areas. For example, I get up several hours before him, in order to get up with the kids. I plan our entire social lives, including coordinating with his family. I do all the dishes, because it’s a repetitive task. I never had trouble making plans with DH when we were dating, though. I was always on time, always willing to make time, etc. [/quote]

That’s good.
Unf my add inattentive spouse often zones out when washing the dishes (or driving, or shopping, or filling out forms) so they only end up getting rinsed. She or I then have to do it again with soap, sponge and scrubbing. This happens several times a month. It’s like an inability to learn. 
That said, adhd has vastly different strings between inattentiveness and hyperactivity.[/quote]

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