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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, I would approach this weekend meeting as only an opportunity to listen to what he has to say. Let him make his proposal. Ask him questions about details such as flights, costs, etc. Simply listen and ask questions.  Do NOT negotiate with him.  Keep your cards close at hand and stay calm. No judgment and no anger. Do not offer anything except, “You’ve given me a lot to think about. Of course I’ll need to talk this over with my attorney.”

Again, do NOT negotiate. [/quote]

I agree with this advice. This is an information gathering session for you, to see what he has in mind, so you can formulate your own negotiation plan with your attorney.

I think the other thing to consider here is that your kid is in high school, and his/her wishes need to be taken into account for visitation. I doubt your highschooler is going to want to spend the entire summer in a place where they don't know anyone. If your kid is excited about staying with dad all summer, then, I would honor that too. Ultimately, I would approach this as a three-way negotiation.

1. Find out what kid envisions
2. Listen, without judgement, to your ex's plan
3. Formulate your own position[/quote]

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